Why Men Cheat

By their very nature, men constantly feel an impulse to cheat. Society has conditioned men to ignore this impulse, but not all men do. When a man cheats on a woman, naturally, the woman will blame herself, even if just a little. In many cases when a man cheats, it was not the woman's fault whatsoever, but rather just an inevitability of sorts. Women have a tendency to overanalyze why men cheat. For women, cheating can be a complicated and emotional occurrence. Therefore, they assume it must also be complicated for men. That's not true. As with most questions, often the simplest answer is the correct answer.

In some ways, men are like domesticated dogs. You can train Scruffles not to bark. You can take him to obedience classes where he further is conditioned not to bark. But if someone knocks on the door, he's probably going to bark. Let.s take a look at some reasons why men cheat:

Because They Could

Women generally need prerequisites before engaging in a sexual affair. They need the man to make them feel secure. They need to feel longed for. They need to feel sexy and youthful. Men simply need a woman who wants to have sex. That's it. For some men, the mere knowledge of a woman who wants to have sex with them is enough to make them cheat. We'll call this 'caveman syndrome'. Let's not forget what the most primitive male homo-sapiens were like. They were hardwired to spread their seed as much as possible to ensure the continuation of their species. Since that time, humans have simply not evolved enough for men to completely ignore this impulse.

Because They Couldn't

One of the most basic rules of humanity that you should commit to memory right now is that people want what they can't have. 'Cheating', by its very definition, implies that something wasn't meant to be had. For that very reason, people will want it. Let's remember, 'cheating' only exists because we invented it. It is not a universal rule of nature, like gravity. Ask yourself: what type of man can't possibly cheat no matter how much he wants to? A religious man? An expecting father? A newlywed? Nope. A man who is allowed to be with other women. He can't cheat, because there are no expectations of loyalty placed upon him!

By expecting a man not to cheat, the chance of him cheating increases. Some men might cheat because they feel it is their only outlet to feel like a 'bad boy' again. Domesticate a dog too much, and he'll either get depressed or rebellious.

Boredome/Curiosity

This is both a physiological and psychological reason for cheating. Humans are curious creatures. After being with the same woman for long enough, men can simply get curious. They start to forget what it's like to be with a different woman. By simply being curious about what it would be like to sleep with another woman, some men may pursue a sexual affair. For any woman hoping to prevent this from happening with their mate: work with your partner to keep your sex life interesting and exciting. A man who is not bored with his current sex life is unlikely to seek out a new sexual partner.

Peer Pressure

One of the strongest forces in getting people to do anything is peer pressure. It's no surprise that one reason why a man might cheat is for that reason. Since monogamous relationships are the norm in our society, it's unlikely that a man will be flat-out advised to have an affair. However, more subtle pressures from friends and coworkers could lead to a man deciding to cheat.

For example, a man with single friends may be inadvertently persuaded to cheat simply from hearing of their friends' sexual endeavors.

Snowball Effect

Some men cheat simply because they, in a roundabout way, have forgotten they're not supposed to. A lifestyle that starts with occasional trips to a strip club and guys-night-out at the bar might eventually lead to more open flirting with female coworkers and friends which could ultimately result in an affair. To compare men to dogs again: a dog might know he's not supposed to bark, but if he gets away with enough smaller noises and grumbles, he eventually might start to think he's allowed to bark again. Give a man an inch, and he'll eventually want two inches.

In closing, the lesson to learn here is that men don't usually cheat solely because of their mate. Men are macrocheaters. They don't use cheating as a tool for revenge or malice. There is often very little emotion involved when a man cheats. Just like the dog barking after someone knocked on the door, some men cheat because they weren't thinking. It probably happened too fast and seemed too natural for them to avoid it.