Top Two Reasons Why Your Husband Will Cheat on You

Learning of an extra-marital affair can be devastating.  In addition to the physical concerns of disease, being passed from another woman or man to you, there is also the emotional scars that can stay with you forever.  Unfortunately, the number of husbands going outside the marriage to have an affair is on the rise, which is one reason we see divorce at an all-time high.

Having suspicion, or worse, proof that your husband has cheated disrupts every aspect of life.  Keep in mind that some husbands are absolutely 100% faithful but other husbands choose to have an affair.  The reasons why a husband cheats on a wife vary for each individual situation.  While some reasons are unusual, we wanted to address the two reasons most commonly associated with a husband cheating on his wife.

Sex

Very simply put, if a husband is not being sexually satisfied at home, the chances of him going elsewhere increase.  Now, even if a couple were having intimate moments several times each week, if the husband feels bored or dissatisfied, he may be willing to risk the marriage in hopes of finding a way to enjoy his sexual fantasies.  Of all reasons a husband cheats, physical dissatisfaction at home or physical interest in another woman is the number one cause of infidelity.

The problem is that most men are unable to separate fantasy from reality.  Even if sex at home is better than average, he may have an interest in being with someone new.  In this case, the

Boredom

Another aspect of a cheating husband looking for sex outside the marriage is that he may no longer find his wife attractive or the relationship stimulating.  For instance, if she gained weight after having children, does not take care of herself physically, finds time with her friends more interesting than with her husband, or simply becomes a "nag", then he might stray.  While his intention is only physical, he has a desire to feel good about himself.  However, when things at home are not going well or he is no longer attracted to his wife, finding the opportunity for sex with someone else is an outlet and boost to the ego.

We have all heard about the "seven year itch", which is a time in which marriages seem to be at greatest risk for divorce.  Around this time, a couple has become comfortable, letting down appearances, no longer working hard to please the other spouse, finding other interests in the form of friends or activities, and so on.  In other words, things become stagnated and boring.  At this time, a husband may long for the old excitement that he once felt with his wife. Often, he will look for this outside the marriage rather than investing himself in trying to fix things with the wife.

Remember, every marriage goes through quiet periods, which are times of adjustment, growth, and new discovery.  These phases are perfectly normal.  However, when two people love one another and are dedicated to the marriage, it is important to recognize when things are starting to fall apart so immediate action can be taken.  Many times, talking about refocus with one another or professional counseling can bring the marriage back around to a beautiful bond.