What goes through the mind of a cheater?

[repeat_offender]

I am here to answer that question. In most cases the information on this website is very informative and helpful.

But what happens when your husband cheats and none of the reasons given make any sense in your case?
What if he isn't showing any of the signs but you are sure he is still cheating?
Why does it happen? What could have been done to stop it?

I am here to answer these questions.


Please share your specific situation and I will try to help you understand what happened.

[opensalonuser]

http://open.salon.com/blog/cate_long...n_your_husband

[Rina]

(sorry for my "perfect" English )so my story is not so "special".. me and my husband married for 10 years.. we have 2 wonderful kids.. I'm 39 years old... my husband is 59 years old.. his mistress is 63... I couched them 4 years ago... I have all evidences(e-mails.. phone's calls..) I don't know if they still together.. but some times I fill like they are... I just don't understand, why and why it's happened to me...

[faith love]

oh Rina
it has nothing to do with you and all to do with your husband. Men are like animals they cant think about concequences like we do. To them its just about the instict of having sex and nothing more. If they are still together after 4 years then honey you need to be strong for you and your wonderful kids and leave him he doesnt deserve you. If he wants to have fun with other women that he can do that but not while he is still married to you.. Your husband is a fool because he should be treating u as gold since your 20 years his young. You can do better. and if he did it once, you need to expected it again if you stay with him. If you suspect it then your instict might be right dont wait for the evidence just do what you have to to be happy. All ur going to do is loose your energy on him while you can use it on your kids and yourself. if you stay you might be a bitter old women one day thinking to yourself" Was I ever enough for my husband?"

[jackfergusion]

I think a person cheats twice than he/she can't be trusted. He will again cheat you if you do not be careful. Once we can forgive the mistake but for the second mistake I don't think so that I can do it. Once if I have doubt on a person I will ask him very politely than I will search out for proof and give him only one chance but still he repeat his mistake again than I will break all the relation with him.